When you’ve taken time to get clear about the dream you have for your life together and promise what you will do to keep it alive by writing your own personal wedding vows, you want people to hear you when you read and pledge those vows to each other at your ceremony.
When your guests can hear everything that takes place at your ceremony they can be present in a way that most guests aren’t. Most people are not fully present because THEY CANNOT HEAR WHAT IS GOING ON!
Here is what I want you to do so everyone, including you and your partner, get the most out of your ceremony, your vows, and your entire wedding:
GET A MICROPHONE.
One for the minister or officiant and a free standing one for you as a couple. Three would actually be perfect, those little clip on things. That way even someone in the back row would not miss a thing.
Here was my rationing: When I was performing weddings I used to tell my couples that they were putting on a show and their guests deserved to heard!
These guests would pay good money to attend. They would buy gifts or give money, purchase new clothes and travel to attend, some long distances that would require airplanes and hotel stays.
All these people deserved the greatest experience possible.
When you fully include your guests in your ceremony you are saying ‘thank you.’ You are acknowledging their presence and letting them know that they are appreciated and honored.
If you are outside it’s even more important because there are no walls for your voices to bounce off. Sounds get absorbed and diluted by trees, grass, the great outside. Even people right in front won’t hear.
(My favorite wedding was on the top of a hill at an old country inn in Massachusetts. It was summer and the garden was in full bloom. One of those wonderful old rock fences you find in New England encircled the garden. The ceremony took place in the garden in front of one of those rock fences.
Just as the ceremony ended and the balloons were set off, the sun set in a glorious panorama of pinks and oranges right behind the rock wall where the bride and groom were standing. They were literally framed in color. We all cried a little over that!)
Adding microphones to your service is one of the most fundamentally important and easily attended to actions you can take to make your wedding or commitment service and vows the ultimate memorable event.
You can read more about my innovative and unique approach to writing wedding vows as well as the Ebook, THE SECRET LIFE OF VOWS-How to Write Vows That Create Powerful Relationships by following this link.
Make sure you sign up at the RSS link so you don’t miss any postings.
Love, light and laughter,
Rev. Linda Bardes, The Wedding Vow Coach
Helping couples write down the dream and then live it!
Showing posts with label writing wedding vows vows. Show all posts
Showing posts with label writing wedding vows vows. Show all posts
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
Friday, March 6, 2009
Writing Wedding Vows-How to Give the Perfect Smooch!
When writing wedding vows maybe it would be a good idea to promise to ‘practice kissing every day.’ Not just a little peck on the check, or a brush of the lips, but the real endorphin popping smooch!
Because studies on kissing have unlocked the secret behind that perfect smooch. And it begins with the chemistry.
A passionate snog sets off a chain reaction, releasing sexually-charged hormones and pheromones into the brain. The whole brain (and body) is involved.
Psychology professor Wendy Hill, of Lafayette College, Pennsylvania, said: “We tend to think about who we are kissing and how it feels, but there are a lot of other things happening.
“This study shows that kissing is more complex and causes hormonal changes that we never thought occurred.”
Scientific research has led experts to believe pheromones exist in our saliva, giving off unconscious signals that boost human arousal. Which is why we see those women on The Bachelor engaging in passionate kissing a lot.
They know what they are doing. Science is finally catching up and explaining it in rather dull terms but what it’s all about is keeping your relationship alive and passionate and thriving.
This is not a joke. Not by a long shot, because one of the 2 biggest reasons couples give for that 50% divorce rate is sex. Or lack of it.
I’m asking you to be very mindful about those hormones. In a previous article I wrote about how we trigger hormones just by touching and doing little things for each other.
I’m all about using nature to do a lot of the relationship work!
I want you to keep on training your cells to get into the habit of feeling good about each other.
I want you to have such a bond with each other that just being in the same room makes you feel good.
I want you to get so used to doing the little things that the big things take care of themselves.
In the morning going off to work is probably not the best time for that long, wet, passionate kiss. Choose your time. But every day I want you to put into your relationship bank account one big, long, sloppy kiss!
What happens after that is up to you.
Laugh about this article if you want but I’m right on serious about it.
You’ve got to keep the intimacy alive, and you’ve got to be mindful about that. Which is why I say that it’s the little things that will make or break your relationship.
You’ve got to practice, practice, practice the little things until they become the big things and everything else is easily put into perspective and handled when they show up.
Not two months later when there is no touching, no kissing, and you are angry about everything except what you started out being angry about.
Write it into your vows: “I promise to give you a big, sloppy, passionate kiss every day of our life we are together!”
Would you believe it . . . there are kissing schools. You might want to check into it to see if there is something you’ve missed!
Don’t forget to sign up for the RSS feeds to keep on getting all this good stuff. After all, who else is going to tell you that you have to keep on smooching.
Visit the main page to learn more about writing wedding vows if you’re still in the ‘before the ceremony’ planning stage. There’s also good stuff on the Wedding Vow blog. www.WeddingVowsandCeremonies.com
Keep on kissing.
Love, light and laughter,
Rev. Linda Bardes, The Wedding Vow Coach
Helping couples write down the dream and then live it!
Because studies on kissing have unlocked the secret behind that perfect smooch. And it begins with the chemistry.
A passionate snog sets off a chain reaction, releasing sexually-charged hormones and pheromones into the brain. The whole brain (and body) is involved.
Psychology professor Wendy Hill, of Lafayette College, Pennsylvania, said: “We tend to think about who we are kissing and how it feels, but there are a lot of other things happening.
“This study shows that kissing is more complex and causes hormonal changes that we never thought occurred.”
Scientific research has led experts to believe pheromones exist in our saliva, giving off unconscious signals that boost human arousal. Which is why we see those women on The Bachelor engaging in passionate kissing a lot.
They know what they are doing. Science is finally catching up and explaining it in rather dull terms but what it’s all about is keeping your relationship alive and passionate and thriving.
This is not a joke. Not by a long shot, because one of the 2 biggest reasons couples give for that 50% divorce rate is sex. Or lack of it.
I’m asking you to be very mindful about those hormones. In a previous article I wrote about how we trigger hormones just by touching and doing little things for each other.
I’m all about using nature to do a lot of the relationship work!
I want you to keep on training your cells to get into the habit of feeling good about each other.
I want you to have such a bond with each other that just being in the same room makes you feel good.
I want you to get so used to doing the little things that the big things take care of themselves.
In the morning going off to work is probably not the best time for that long, wet, passionate kiss. Choose your time. But every day I want you to put into your relationship bank account one big, long, sloppy kiss!
What happens after that is up to you.
Laugh about this article if you want but I’m right on serious about it.
You’ve got to keep the intimacy alive, and you’ve got to be mindful about that. Which is why I say that it’s the little things that will make or break your relationship.
You’ve got to practice, practice, practice the little things until they become the big things and everything else is easily put into perspective and handled when they show up.
Not two months later when there is no touching, no kissing, and you are angry about everything except what you started out being angry about.
Write it into your vows: “I promise to give you a big, sloppy, passionate kiss every day of our life we are together!”
Would you believe it . . . there are kissing schools. You might want to check into it to see if there is something you’ve missed!
Don’t forget to sign up for the RSS feeds to keep on getting all this good stuff. After all, who else is going to tell you that you have to keep on smooching.
Visit the main page to learn more about writing wedding vows if you’re still in the ‘before the ceremony’ planning stage. There’s also good stuff on the Wedding Vow blog. www.WeddingVowsandCeremonies.com
Keep on kissing.
Love, light and laughter,
Rev. Linda Bardes, The Wedding Vow Coach
Helping couples write down the dream and then live it!
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)
Posts
.JPG){kind=small}