When you pledge your vows at your wedding ceremony you are not done with them. You are going to keep rereading them to pump the creative energy of the Universe into them and make them a Law of Attraction.
Keep that in mind when you write your personal wedding vows. I want you to put some substance into them. I want you to infuse them with a dream and a vivid vision for your marriage.
That means you are not going to write them just so they sound like some poet came to live with you for a week. Impressing your guests is the least of it. Because, when the ceremony is over no one is going to remember what you said.
Your vows are for the two of you. Period. If you write them together your vows reflect the dream you have for your lives and for your marriage.
“You remind me of the sun rising in the East on a clear morning,” may be poetic but it doesn’t MEAN ANYTHING!
Your vows have to mean something. They have to have some substance. They are the dream you have for your life together!
Because your marriage vows are the dream you have for your life together, you must write your vows together. Don’t go off into a dark corner and surprise your partner. Surprise is not good here. You want to literally be on the same page.
Sit down together and talk about the dream you have for yourself and your life together. First one of you shares the dream for your individual life apart from the marrriage. This is most likely your career. Then the other shares their dream. Then talk about the dream for your marriage. What does it look like, feel like, sound like, etc. Talk about sex, and money, and children, and religion or spirituality, about houses and cars, about travel, about philanthropy, and anything you can think about that will make up the reality and experience of the marriage.
(In my Ebook, THE SECRET LIFE OF VOWS-How to Write Vows that Create Powerful Marriages , I give you lots of help with this including a ‘living the dream’ workbook. www.weddingvowsandceremonies.com )
Talk about what you will each do to help the other achieve their dream and talk about what you will have to do to keep ‘living the dream.’
That’s the basis of your vows. It’s not the vows yet. But the essence.
Now put what you talked about into written vows.
“I will love you by striving to grow and be healthy for both our sakes.”
“I vow to make our time together a priority in my life.”
“I promise to encourage your dreams and I promise to dream those dreams with you.”
“I promise never to go to bed angry.”
All these are great lines as long as you know what they mean.
Think BIG. Dream BIG. Live BIG!
Love, light and laughter,
Rev. Linda, The Wedding Vow Coach
Helping you to ‘Live the Dream” at www.weddingvowsandceremonies.com/blog
Friday, August 29, 2008
Thursday, August 28, 2008
Writing Personal Wedding Vows-You are 99.9% Ahead of Everyone Else
I took the following from an Email from Joe Vitale. I felt it said very well what I have been trying to tell people about why you should write your own wedding or marriage vows.
He has a program he sells that he calls, Miracle Coaching, and he talks about the Law of Attraction, or Law of Cause and Effect. Or another way to put it is to say “You have to Decide.” You can check out his site at www.MrFire.com
“You are the masterpiece of your own life; you are the Michelangelo of your own life. The David that you are sculpting is your life (your marriage).
What does that mean and why is it important to you?
It means that you do not have any limits as to what you can accomplish. You just need to have a plan and work it. But it is all up to you.
So now that you know what you would dare, what you would dare to be and what you would dare to have if there were no limits - you are ahead of 99.9% of people.
“What would you dare” is another way of saying that the two of you sculpt the form of your marriage the way you want. Not the way anyone in your family lived. Not how anyone on TV lives. Of course there are some good role models you want to look at for what they have to teach you , but your dream is your dream!
Now you need to simply put together a plan to get here. Believe me when I say this is not rocket science. In fact, you may be surprised at it simplicity.
What can you dare? How big can you dream? That’s the simple part.
But, Rev. Linda, we have to face reality.
No, never. Make your own! That is what you do when you write your wedding vows together and infuse them with your dreams.
That dream is your PLAN. That dream written into your personal wedding vows is your P LAN! You will have infused it with your imagination, creativity and energy. That plan takes on a life of its own and goes to work immediately to bring you the sculpting tools, the ideas, the experiences that manifest as your amazing marriage and partnership.
I give you everything you need in order to begin to think ‘big’ and dare to dream a big dream in my Ebook, THE SECRET LIFE OF WEDDING VOWS-How to Write Vows That Create Powerful Marriages. Follow this link or the one on the right–wedding vows- www.weddingvowsandceremonies.com
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Love, light and laughter,
Rev Linda, The Wedding Vow Coach
Helping you to ‘write the dream’ and then go and ‘live it.’
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He has a program he sells that he calls, Miracle Coaching, and he talks about the Law of Attraction, or Law of Cause and Effect. Or another way to put it is to say “You have to Decide.” You can check out his site at www.MrFire.com
“You are the masterpiece of your own life; you are the Michelangelo of your own life. The David that you are sculpting is your life (your marriage).
What does that mean and why is it important to you?
It means that you do not have any limits as to what you can accomplish. You just need to have a plan and work it. But it is all up to you.
So now that you know what you would dare, what you would dare to be and what you would dare to have if there were no limits - you are ahead of 99.9% of people.
“What would you dare” is another way of saying that the two of you sculpt the form of your marriage the way you want. Not the way anyone in your family lived. Not how anyone on TV lives. Of course there are some good role models you want to look at for what they have to teach you , but your dream is your dream!
Now you need to simply put together a plan to get here. Believe me when I say this is not rocket science. In fact, you may be surprised at it simplicity.
What can you dare? How big can you dream? That’s the simple part.
But, Rev. Linda, we have to face reality.
No, never. Make your own! That is what you do when you write your wedding vows together and infuse them with your dreams.
That dream is your PLAN. That dream written into your personal wedding vows is your P LAN! You will have infused it with your imagination, creativity and energy. That plan takes on a life of its own and goes to work immediately to bring you the sculpting tools, the ideas, the experiences that manifest as your amazing marriage and partnership.
I give you everything you need in order to begin to think ‘big’ and dare to dream a big dream in my Ebook, THE SECRET LIFE OF WEDDING VOWS-How to Write Vows That Create Powerful Marriages. Follow this link or the one on the right–wedding vows- www.weddingvowsandceremonies.com
Why don’t you sign up to receive new postings as I write them. Follow the RSS feed.
Love, light and laughter,
Rev Linda, The Wedding Vow Coach
Helping you to ‘write the dream’ and then go and ‘live it.’
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Wednesday, August 27, 2008
Wedding Vows Create Key Memories
was thinking this morning, as I sipped my second cup of cold coffee, about wedding or marriage vows and how the subconscious mind works.
For most people, unless they have studied metaphysics or mental science or some such discipline, the concept of a subconscious or unconscious mind is vague at best.
Here is what came out of those cold cups of coffee, cold because of all the thinking that was going on in between sips.
And even though it was ‘hot' thinking I haven't yet learned how to motivate molecules to physically change form: like heating up coffee or bending spoons.
Well, anyway, the thought that came to me was the concept of memories.
More...
Why?
Because everything we think, do, or are has to do with memories. Memories that have been encoded into our cells.
Even the way our bodies function is as a result of memory; most of those functions we inherited from before we were born, way back to some universal idea of humans as we developed over time. We can call them DNA or genetics but when it comes right down to it those are all encoded memories.
On some level all our experiences are turned to memories that hang around in our personal physical and mental data bank. Every minute we are comparing what we are hearing, seeing, feeling, etc. with the information in that data bank.
Based on what we find that matches the memories we have, or doesn't match anything, our ‘subconscious' is giving us directions on what to do, what to say, what to think, where to go, and how to do it. Or how not to do or say or go or be.
That's what I call default thinking.
If we want our lives to be any different than they are we must change the energy or vibration of the memories. We must consciously choose or decide on the type of memories we want to store up in our data bank. And then go about experiencing them so we can add to the 'frame of reference.'
The idea of choosing to create memories seems a lot easier to me than trying to change our minds or our thinking.
Ask yourself:
"How do I want my life to be? What does it look like, feel like, taste like, smell look like?" Then create experiences that add new memories to the data bank. When there are more memories that match what you want, that becomes the dominant force factor, or attracting factor.
I am calling them ‘key' memories.
The idea of search, find, and show up works much like search engines. The more key words you have in your web site the more likely it is that the search engines will choose your web site to show up early in the search results.
Keep adding key memories. Those key memories have a dominant feeling, shape, color, sound, etc.
Create your vision and then keep adding ‘key' memories until you have more matches that support your dreams than ones that resist or even negate them.
Writing wedding vows from the conscious creation of a vision and dream that has power, passion and purpose behind them is like storing up key memories before they are actually experienced.
Because the subconscious, or your memories, doesn't know the difference between what is real and what is imagined.
Is that a wedding gift without a priceag or what? See more at www.weddingvowsandceremonies where I have an amazing Ebook on writing wedding vows. Click on the RSS feed on the Weding Vow Blog to receive new postings.
Love, light and laughter,
Rev. Linda, The Wedding Vow Coach
For most people, unless they have studied metaphysics or mental science or some such discipline, the concept of a subconscious or unconscious mind is vague at best.
Here is what came out of those cold cups of coffee, cold because of all the thinking that was going on in between sips.
And even though it was ‘hot' thinking I haven't yet learned how to motivate molecules to physically change form: like heating up coffee or bending spoons.
Well, anyway, the thought that came to me was the concept of memories.
More...
Why?
Because everything we think, do, or are has to do with memories. Memories that have been encoded into our cells.
Even the way our bodies function is as a result of memory; most of those functions we inherited from before we were born, way back to some universal idea of humans as we developed over time. We can call them DNA or genetics but when it comes right down to it those are all encoded memories.
On some level all our experiences are turned to memories that hang around in our personal physical and mental data bank. Every minute we are comparing what we are hearing, seeing, feeling, etc. with the information in that data bank.
Based on what we find that matches the memories we have, or doesn't match anything, our ‘subconscious' is giving us directions on what to do, what to say, what to think, where to go, and how to do it. Or how not to do or say or go or be.
That's what I call default thinking.
If we want our lives to be any different than they are we must change the energy or vibration of the memories. We must consciously choose or decide on the type of memories we want to store up in our data bank. And then go about experiencing them so we can add to the 'frame of reference.'
The idea of choosing to create memories seems a lot easier to me than trying to change our minds or our thinking.
Ask yourself:
"How do I want my life to be? What does it look like, feel like, taste like, smell look like?" Then create experiences that add new memories to the data bank. When there are more memories that match what you want, that becomes the dominant force factor, or attracting factor.
I am calling them ‘key' memories.
The idea of search, find, and show up works much like search engines. The more key words you have in your web site the more likely it is that the search engines will choose your web site to show up early in the search results.
Keep adding key memories. Those key memories have a dominant feeling, shape, color, sound, etc.
Create your vision and then keep adding ‘key' memories until you have more matches that support your dreams than ones that resist or even negate them.
Writing wedding vows from the conscious creation of a vision and dream that has power, passion and purpose behind them is like storing up key memories before they are actually experienced.
Because the subconscious, or your memories, doesn't know the difference between what is real and what is imagined.
Is that a wedding gift without a priceag or what? See more at www.weddingvowsandceremonies where I have an amazing Ebook on writing wedding vows. Click on the RSS feed on the Weding Vow Blog to receive new postings.
Love, light and laughter,
Rev. Linda, The Wedding Vow Coach
Tuesday, August 26, 2008
Wedding Vows Make MARRIAGE Even More Special
I was reading a blog this morning about how writing personal wedding vows make a wedding even more special.
You can make you MARRIAGE even more special by writing your own vows!!
There is a little known secret about wedding vows: They have the potential to draw to a couple everything that they need to be 'living the dream' that they wrote into their vows. Their vows are sort of like a spiritual and mental plan that the Universe recognizes as a magnet and somehow sends the people, things, opportunities, experiences and ideas that support that plan.
But here's some of what is needed to create that Law of Attraction or grow a strong magnet: The plan, the vows, have to be reread and reread and reread until they become 'second nature.'
There are a couple of ways this can be done.
1. Print out two copies of the vows and put one copy by each side of the bed to be read each night by each individual. Once a month read them together.
2. Print out one copy that stays in the bedroom and both partners read the vows together every night.
3. Both partners read the vows together every morning before they leave the house.
By reading those vows every day they become infused into the minds, lives and spiritual activities of the couple. I call that document a one page miracle. See more about 'writing down the dream,' and 'keeping the dream alive,' in other blogs.
www.weddingvowsandceremonies.com
Love, light and laughter,
Rev. Linda.
You can make you MARRIAGE even more special by writing your own vows!!
There is a little known secret about wedding vows: They have the potential to draw to a couple everything that they need to be 'living the dream' that they wrote into their vows. Their vows are sort of like a spiritual and mental plan that the Universe recognizes as a magnet and somehow sends the people, things, opportunities, experiences and ideas that support that plan.
But here's some of what is needed to create that Law of Attraction or grow a strong magnet: The plan, the vows, have to be reread and reread and reread until they become 'second nature.'
There are a couple of ways this can be done.
1. Print out two copies of the vows and put one copy by each side of the bed to be read each night by each individual. Once a month read them together.
2. Print out one copy that stays in the bedroom and both partners read the vows together every night.
3. Both partners read the vows together every morning before they leave the house.
By reading those vows every day they become infused into the minds, lives and spiritual activities of the couple. I call that document a one page miracle. See more about 'writing down the dream,' and 'keeping the dream alive,' in other blogs.
www.weddingvowsandceremonies.com
Love, light and laughter,
Rev. Linda.
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