When Writing Vows Keep in Mind You'll be Reviewing Them Over and Over

When you pledge your vows at your wedding ceremony you are not done with them. You are going to keep rereading them to pump the creative energy of the Universe into them and make them a Law of Attraction.

Keep that in mind when you write your personal wedding vows. I want you to put some substance into them. I want you to infuse them with a dream and a vivid vision for your marriage.

That means you are not going to write them just so they sound like some poet came to live with you for a week. Impressing your guests is the least of it. Because, when the ceremony is over no one is going to remember what you said.

Your vows are for the two of you. Period. If you write them together your vows reflect the dream you have for your lives and for your marriage.

“You remind me of the sun rising in the East on a clear morning,” may be poetic but it doesn’t MEAN ANYTHING!

Your vows have to mean something. They have to have some substance. They are the dream you have for your life together!

Because your marriage vows are the dream you have for your life together, you must write your vows together. Don’t go off into a dark corner and surprise your partner. Surprise is not good here. You want to literally be on the same page.

Sit down together and talk about the dream you have for yourself and your life together. First one of you shares the dream for your individual life apart from the marrriage. This is most likely your career. Then the other shares their dream. Then talk about the dream for your marriage. What does it look like, feel like, sound like, etc. Talk about sex, and money, and children, and religion or spirituality, about houses and cars, about travel, about philanthropy, and anything you can think about that will make up the reality and experience of the marriage.

(In my Ebook, THE SECRET LIFE OF VOWS-How to Write Vows that Create Powerful Marriages , I give you lots of help with this including a ‘living the dream’ workbook. www.weddingvowsandceremonies.com )

Talk about what you will each do to help the other achieve their dream and talk about what you will have to do to keep ‘living the dream.’

That’s the basis of your vows. It’s not the vows yet. But the essence.

Now put what you talked about into written vows.

“I will love you by striving to grow and be healthy for both our sakes.”

“I vow to make our time together a priority in my life.”

“I promise to encourage your dreams and I promise to dream those dreams with you.”

“I promise never to go to bed angry.”

All these are great lines as long as you know what they mean.

Think BIG. Dream BIG. Live BIG!

Love, light and laughter,

Rev. Linda, The Wedding Vow Coach

Helping you to ‘Live the Dream” at www.weddingvowsandceremonies.com/blog