Life Vows-Give Yourself a Boost of Dopamine

A primary part of my philosophy about writing wedding and commitment vows is that when you are talking about, writing about, pledging, thinking, etc., (7 tools of creation) you are creating a pathway that can be recreated every time you reread your vows.

This is mental science stuff.

In other words, it’s proven! Science has done tests and tests and experiments up one side and down the other.

Now, that is really good news for you. Here’s why.

MRIs reveal that doing something good, like making a donation, or doing something for someone else activates the brain’s reward center–giving you a boost of dopamine, which is a natural drug that makes you feel good.

So, when you help others, the primitve part of your brain lights up to experience pleasure.

OH, boy, don’t you love it.

What’s that got to do with writing wedding or commitment vows, you ask?

Just this. When you sit down together to talk about the dream you have for your life and the dream you have for your marriage, then listen to your partner tell you what it he or she needs you to do to help him or her achieve that dream, you get into a schmushy, mushy, feel-good place.

You have already given before you actually ‘do’ anything. You get that dopamine flowing.

Then, when you reread those vows (remember, your vows are the promises of what you are going to do to keep your relationship and marriage alive and thriving) you go back in time, and once again feel all warm and fuzzy.

This is just one more reason why writing your own vows are so important.

If you haven’t already written your vows go on over to the main web page and pick up a copy of the Secret Ebook. You can do this anytime, even after the ceremony.

Get into the feeling of the dream you have for your life, the life of your partner, and the life of your marriage, get high on expectation and delight, and set a tone, a ’scientific feel-good pattern.’ Then keep it alive.

Dopamine is about feeling personally powerful (as in ‘I can do anything!), connecting to your partner on a heart level, and an intimate level and keeping the dream going and going and going.
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Love, light and laughter,
Rev. Linda, The Wedding Vow and Life Vow Coach
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