Writing Wedding Vows--"Big Hairy Audacious Goals"

You are going to base writing your wedding or commitment vows on a BHAG, or dream. What you want to do is to infuse this BHAG into every letter, word and phrase and create a huge Law of Attraction in the process.

BHAG stands for Big Hairy Audacious Goals! (I heard a famous and successful person use that term. I love it!) You want to live the most amazing life possible. That won’t happen if you don’t have BHAG’s for your own life and your life together as a couple.

This simple exercise is going to give you an opportunity to let your imagination fly free. Don’t be afraid to dream big. Imagine things that you can’t possibly think will ever come about. In the imagining of a thing is the potential for it’s success.

You could begin to fill in the blanks some evening over dinner and make it an ongoing monthly event. Just imagine how this can open up conversation about the impossible becoming possible. Above all, have fun with this!

In a notebook (that you can keep) write down the following headings on separate pages and number your page from 1-101:

WHAT WE WANT TO BE

WHAT WE WANT TO DO

WHAT WE WANT TO HAVE.

Why 101? No reason except it’s out of the box. Most people use 100. You can use 115, or 155, or 205. You choose.

You are not trying to fill up your notebook in one sitting. Start by entering as much as you can think of. Then be aware when new ideas come up. You might carry a small notebook and jot them down as you are aware of them. Then transfer them to your ‘big’ idea book!

Title your notebook: “____ and ___ Big Hairy Audacious Goal Book.”

Remember this is not about practicality, it’s about thinking out of the box.

Include physical, mental and spiritual aspects.

Again, everything and anything is possible so let your imagination soar. You are stretching your believability arms.

You are going for BHAG’s! Not you everyday garden variety.

If your intention is clear and you’re passionately involved in your vision, the means for achieving it will come to you. The how-to’s will simply begin to manifest in ways more magnificent than you can imagine.

Write your vows to support the dreams that you wrote. Include a line something like this: “I promise to always dream with you and imagine big goals.”

Then, of course, keep reading and reading those vows over and over and over. You will begin to see those ‘impossible’ people, places, things, ideas, situations, experiences and opportunities show up in magical and mystical ways.

THINK BIG!!

(Use this exercise for your own personal life as well as the life of your marriage.)

Love, light and laughter,

Rev. Linda, The Wedding Vow Coach

Helping couples write down the dream and then live it!

Linda Bardes is a non-traditional minister who refers to herself as The Wedding Vow Coach. She has an unusual and innovative perspective around the importance of writing personal wedding or commitment vows. http://www.WeddingVowsandCeremonies

A beautiful marriage or partnership doesn’t just happen. However, if you attend to the little things you will not have to ‘work hard’ at your relationship. It will keep going and going and going, with just a little course correction now and then. Your potential is in your vows!!