Writing Wedding Vows--What the Buddha Knows That You Don't

A quote from the Buddha came across my desk today and immediately I thought about writing personal wedding and commitment vows because what I have been trying to get through to everyone who reads my articles is this: Your thinking creates your reality!

This one discovery is the basis for my innovative philosophy around writing personal and unique wedding, marriage, commitment or life vows.

Here’s how the Buddha put it: “We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts we make our world.”

When I ask you to sit down together and talk consciously and deliberately about the life you want to live as a married couple, I am asking you to put into words exactly what it is that you want to experience in your marriage and your world.

Then I counsel you to write your vows as the promises you make to each other describing what you are willing to do to make that dream a reality.

I ask you to talk about money and sex, children, family, careers, friends, houses, cars, travel, etc. I ask you to do that so you have to actually look at what you want in your life and create a strong intention or mental picture.

You may think you know what you want but the truth is you really don’t because you drag, carry, and bring along all your old patterns, habits and thoughts.

By sitting down together and writing your own vows after consciously building a clear and focused dream for your life and the life of your marriage or partnership, you are ‘making your world with your thoughts‘ and doing it deliberately.

Deliberately, is the word.

When you craft a vision or dream deliberately you actually paint pictures in your mind. Those pictures have color, depth, sound, smell, touch and substance. When your pictures–your thoughts–are strong enough they become a magnet!

Here’s an important fact for you: Your subconscious mind does not know the difference between what is real and what is imagined.

Your subconscious mind is that aspect of your body/mind that acts without thinking. It just does. It takes what has been programmed by our parents, extended family, culture, personal experiences, and religion, and goes about making that true. We don’t think about it we just do it.

When you take the time to sit down together and consciously and deliberately talk about the dream you have for your life and your marriage and then write it down, you are saying to Higher Power:

“Here’s the picture, here’s what we want, now go out and find things, people, experiences and ideas that match, thank you very much!”

Then when you are exposed to what matches you have the eyes and senses to recognize it.

You are ‘living the dream.’ And you didn’t even have to work hard at it.

You just had to keep it alive and in front of you.

* Reread your vows once every day.
* Do little things for each other.
* Say ‘thank you’ to each other at least once a day.
* Say ‘I love you’ every day.
* Never go to bed angry.

Let’s paraphrase what the Buddha said:

“Everything that shows up in our lives we put there. With a strong vision and powerful vows we make a world of our choice!”

Love, light and laughter,

Rev. Linda, The Wedding Vow Coach

Helping couples write down the dream and then live it!

Rev. Linda Bardes is known as The Wedding Vow Coach. She has a unique and innovative approach to writing wedding or commitment vows. You can read about her Ebook, THE SECRET LIFE OF VOWS--How to Write Vows that Create Powerful Marriages and Partnerships, on her web site: www.WeddingVowsandCeremonies.com