Writing Wedding Vows--3 Ways to Keep Them Going and Going and Going

If you think that writing your personal wedding or commitment vows and then pledging those vows at your ceremony is the end of them, think again. The power in your vows is partly in the writing, partly in the pledging, and even more importantly in keeping them alive.

Here are 3 ways you can keep your vows in front of you and active.

1. Reread those vows every single day.
2. Once a month sit down together to review the previous month.
3. Follow the 10 Commandments of Marriage

If you take little steps to keep things alive and thriving, passionate and intimate, you will not get to the point of no return, or hard work, or struggle to make things work.

You see, I contribute much of the problems with relationships to the belief that marriage takes hard work.

What if the truth is that a little attention on an ongoing basis is the best recipe for a fantastic and fabulous marriage and relationship?

What you are going to do is to continue to reinforce the dream you have for your life together.

By keeping those vows in front of you, you are actually writing a strong life operating system.

You are going to make that dream so alive that you will automatically be drawn to those things, people, opportunities, experiences and ideas that support the dream that you took time to write down as vows.

Read your vows every day. Laminate 2 copies of your vows. This way they won’t wear out.

Here are some ways to make reading your vows a habit:

* Read your vows by yourself every night before going to bed. That way you ’sleep’ on them and infuse them into your dreams.
* Read your vows by yourself every morning before going off to work. This is a great way to start your day.
* Read your vows together every night or every morning.
* If you read your vows by yourself then at least once or twice a month read them together. This opens the opportunity for meaningful conversation. Your challenges will never get away on you if you do this.

Once a month sit down and review the previous month.

If you read your vows together every day this will pretty much take care of itself. However, you might still choose to have a monthly check-in.

Choose a specific night each month and stick to it. You might have a list of questions that you answer.

Follow the 10 Commandments of Marriage.

You can print out a copy of the 10 Commandments of Marriage on the WeddingVowsandCeremonies web site.

Post them in a place where you can see them often as an in-your-face reminder.

They are simple practical and easy to follow suggestions, such as ‘Live with appreciation for all things”–compliment each other often.

Since your personal wedding or commitment vows is the single most important tool that you have in your relationship toolbox, get them out and use them. They may literally save your marriage or partnership.

Love, light and laughter,

Rev. Linda, The Wedding Vow Coach

Helping couples write down the dream and then live it!

www.WeddingVowsandCeremonies.com