Writing personal wedding or commitment vows the way I suggest that you do, by sitting down together in inspired and conscious conversation, infusing the dream you have for yourself and for your life together into the vows, may take an act of courage.
Since I ask you to look at various aspects of your life together honestly and courageously as part of the process of writing your own vows, many of you most likely will have to step out of your comfort zone.
It will take courage (guts) to look at your life as you want it to be or as you imagine it to be. That’s what I call ‘the dream.’
Courage!
Maybe more people do not take the time to get clear about their life together, about their goals and what they want out of life because they are afraid that they are not actually compatible in the long run.
* They want different things
* Their values are not in alignment (She love to travel, he wants to sit home and watch sports.)
Courage!
ou will not be able to create a substantial and strong vision, or dream for your marriage if you don’t actually sit down and talk about your life together.That’s what writing wedding vows are all about: the opportunity of a lifetime!
Courage!
I want you to sit down together in conscious and inspired conversation and talk about careers, children, sex, money, in-laws, religion and spirituality, values, houses, cars, vacations, philanthropy, etc.
Get your thoughts down on paper where you have to look at them.
Courage!
You HAVE to talk about what you want. You have to get a sense if in the long term you both are on the same page.
* Do you both want the same things.
* Are your values in alignment
* Are your goals compatible
* Do your lifestyles support each other
If the match is really not there you can recognize it and talk about it. You can plan on how to create that compatibility, because you can; or you may realize that sex is all that holds you together and walk away.
Courage!
No guts, no glory!!!
Love, light and laughter,
Rev. Linda, The Wedding Vow Coach
Helping couples write down the dream and then live it!
www.WeddingVowsandCeremonies.com
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