Writing Wedding Vows-A One Page Miracle in Disguise

Your wedding or commitment vows are actually a dream in disguise. They have the potential to attract to you, with absolute precision, what you really, really want, in your individual lives and the life of the marriage.

That won’t happen if you don’t have a clear and powerful dream and vision:

* For yourself
* For your spouse or partner
* For your marriage or partnership

This is what I want you to know about why you must write your own wedding vows so they have a life beyond the end of the ceremony. . .

So they keep going and going and going . . .

So they live as long as the two of you do . . .

So they really can become a one page miracle!

You write your vows together in shared and inspired conversation, infusing the dream you have for your life together into every letter, word and sentence. You don’t actually write your dream word for word into your vows, however. Your vows are for the purpose of promising what it is you will do to keep the dream alive and sizzling. They are for the purpose of creating a one page miracle!

I want you to take a little time to get yourselves prepared before you sit down together to talk about your life and your vows.

Do you realize that most couples never take the time to talk about important things. Things like money and sex–the two most quoted reasons for divorce–and children and careers and spirituality or religion, or in-laws, or houses and cars and things are often never brought up.

Amazing!

Here’s a quote from someone who picked up one of the brochures for my one day event:

“I am going through a divorce right now. When I read your brochure I realized that my husband and I did not take any time to talk about important areas of our life. If we had a program like this I believe things would have been different!” Anne S.

Before you sit down together to write your vows take a little time to think about some of those areas of your married life.

Write each aspect or area out on a separate card. Then every once in a while pick up one card and carry it around with you. Place it in a conspicuous spot so you will be reminded of it. Then pay attention to the thoughts that pop into your head. Or the conversations you hear around you.

You may find articles in magazines, or turn on Oprah and right there is someone discussing that very topic. You will be surprised at where and how insights and thoughts or answers come to you.

When I say ‘you,’ I mean the two of you. This is not good if both of you are not engaged on some level in ‘big’ thinking.

I want you to come up with what some of the big thinkers refer to as Big Hairy Audacious Goals. You want your goals and your dreams to be too big for the two of you to effect on your own. I want you to tap into an invisible power that knows how to bring to you everything you need to be ‘living’ that BHAG.

You are going to have an amazing life that just keeps going and going and going and going because you are going to use one of the most important discoveries ever!

It’s this: Your subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between what is real and what is imagined!

That one discovery about how the mind works has vast and very important implications for you because you can make your mind believe whatever you want.

You create a BIG dream, you write it into your vows by promising to do whatever it takes to live that dream, and then you keep reviewing those vows over and over and over until you have installed those vows as your personal operating system.

All that from your vows. I would call that a mega miracle in disguise!

Love, light and laughter,

Rev. Linda Bardes, The Wedding Vow Coach

Helping couples to write down the dream and then live it!

I help you to write down the dream in my Ebook, THE SECRET LIFE OF VOWS-How to Write Vows that Create Powerful Marriages and Partnerships.