Writing Wedding Vows--Keeping the 'High Watch'

Writing wedding or commitment vows is the opportunity each of you have to talk about the highest and best intentions that you can imagine for yourself and for your partner.

Your vows are the place where you promise to support yourself and your partner in becoming the highest and best each of you can be.

The first of the 10 Commandments of Marriage is Honor Yourself. The second commandment is Honor Each Other.

It may seem strange that the first commandment is about yourself. Yet if you hold yourself high with integrity and self respect and never compromise your values you can trust each other absolutely.

This trust is the basis for everything else that defines your life and your marriage.

Write this in your wedding vows: “I promise to hold myself high with integrity and self respect and never compromise my values.”

When you stay ‘high’ from living out of your core values and practice doing what makes you come alive, you have more patience, more love, more compassion for everyone including your partner

Here’s a priceless quote from Marianne Williamson:

“Part of working on ourselves, in order to be ready for a profound relationship, is learning how to support another person in being the best that they can be. Partners are meant to have a priestly role in each other’s lives. They are meant to help each other access the highest parts within themselves.”

You are meant to access the highest parts of who you are and in the process learn to see the best in your partner.

Constantly strive to expand your capacities for learning, playing, loving, trusting, praying (whatever that means to you) and playing.

The strongest relationship develops when each partner can hold the ‘high watch’ for the other.

This means that when your partner has forgotten who they are, where they are, what they are doing, or where they are going, you remember for them.

You continue to treat them as though they were still present in their fullness.

You continue to see the best in them.

You practice forgiveness!

This may not be easy to do. That’s why it’s important to keep reading your vows over and over and over again.

Every day affirm that you are awake, aware, and living your highest and greatest good.

Write this in your vows and then put it on a card in the present moment so you have to look at it every morning:

“Everyday I will remember to live my life from the highest perspective I can imagine.”

It helps you remember every day who you are, who your partner is, where you are going and how to recognize when you are off the path.

Can you see what an amazing tool writing your own wedding or commitment vows can be? They are your compass, your map, and your course correction.

Look and read them often and you will never get lost; you will be able to continue to see the best in yourself, and the best in your partner.

Love, light and laughter,

Rev. Linda Bardes, The Wedding Vow Coach

Helping couples write down the dream and then live it!

Linda has a unique and innovative approach to writing wedding vows and how to keep living the dream! You can read more at www.WeddingVowsandCeremonies.com.

Be sure to download a copy of the FREE ebook, 30 Minute Miracle. I originally wrote this for people who show up at the web site looking for help but they have only a few days or minutes to write their vows. The phrases, words, poems and other materials are helpful to everyone. www.WeddingVowsandCeremonies.com